Leave it to the desperate and horny to turn a social networking site, originally intended for recent college grads and underclassmen, into a meat market. There’s nothing wrong with liking someone and hitting up their profile to see if they are single, employed, and the like. Assuming the person is your Facebook friend, you should already know this about them. When it turns into obsession, though, the whole point gets lost. People forget that these sites were meant for socializing, not hunting.

The real problem with FB cruisin’ is stalking those you don’t know at all or know but not really. Manny called me one night perplexed. “SG, this chick is stalking my FB page?” “Well just block her.” “That’s not going to do anything. We have other friends in common and she’ll just look through their pictures to find me, comment and send e-mails.” I felt Manny’s pain and offered some suggestions. That kind of behavior crosses from curious into creepy fast.

Folks, if you like someone or are interested in getting to know them, just send them a message and build up to asking them out. Don’t you know how foolish you look commenting on picture #225 or seeing them in real life and quoting some wall convo they had with someone else? Under any circumstances are you allowed to question someone on their FB interactions. It does not make you look smooth; it makes you look like you are watching their every move. The best move is usually the plain one.

I had an ex hit me up about a pic of me on FB: “SG, I didn’t know you were seeing someone. Who’s dude with his arm wrapped around you?” “Excuse me? Since when did you start jockin’ my FB page?” Needless to say I blocked him from my pics. When used right, social networks are just for that: socializing. Stop hiding behind your keyboards and make a move. We are grown! If you want to know someone, act like a grown person and speak.